Sometimes I think people who like to fight aren’t used to winning.

I can always tell when someone is really good at something, because they get bored of it. It’s not always true, but it’s true enough. Remember when you first learned to drive? You stopped volunteering to take the wheel after a while.

It probably sounds like I’m judging people with my generalizations, but there’s no way to find the truth without some kind of comparison. I talk to clients everyday, and I’ve learned that once you understand a person you can spend less energy trying to grasp the situation and make more moves toward solving it.

It’s useful to understand situations and how people are thinking. You can tell a person is having relationship problems when they start talking about their relationship. They use words to push their mental questions into the physical world. The same way people try to do math problems on paper, so that they can spread the problem out as a whole and work on it in pieces.

Generalizations are good as long as you don’t use them to put people in boxes. Few people mind being understood. But a lot of people will fight when they feel backed into a corner.