Through the picture we see reality, through the word we understand it. — Sven Lidman

I’m randomly sitting next to a soon to be Japanese couple. The guy is doing very well, but I have no idea what he’s saying. All I can see is that he touches her hand, then her knee, then her hand and backs off and talks to her while she’s smiling. They’re both kinda curled up on the coffeeshop couch.

I know that’s way too many details, but they were right next to me. Somehow you just know this dude is almost where he wants to be and she’s not going to fight it. I don’t know how I know this, but I’m sure if you saw it you’d say the same thing. I always believe words make things easier to understand, but I didn’t seem to need them today. I got a good idea just from watching the two.

Who knows what the particular charm was, but lots of different types of people grow on us. Maybe a lot of things work when you’re genuine. People can tell. No matter how you say what you’re saying they’re trying to get an idea of your character or your intentions. If you’re using techniques or doing something because you think you’re supposed to, you’ll seem artificial and then people question your intentions.